Feminism has upended gender-roles. Economic shifts are displacing men as primary breadwinners. The “crisis of masculinity” is very real, but neither Left nor Right has the answer. Donald Trump and Andrew Tate tell us the only way to be a “real man” is to shut off our feelings and dominate others, while the overly woke tell us we’re toxic to the core and should go off in a corner and cancel ourselves. Unhappy with these options, Andrew Boyd soul-searches for a better, more evolved way to be a (cis het) dude. Equal parts manifesto, cultural investigation, and a riotous series of misadventures at the frontlines of male anxiety and reinvention, the book is a soulful call to arms for a more integrated masculinity as well as a provocative peek into one man’s struggle to level up his manliness in pursuit of sex, power, and money love and wisdom. The rules are changing and Misadventures in Masculinity jumps head first into the confusion to revealing and often hilarious effect.

If you’ve ever wondered how to be sexy and anti-sexist at exactly the same time, this is the book you’ve been waiting for. Of course, you might have to keep waiting.

Since I’m still writing it.

But here’s a few pieces that have already been published:

‘Petro-masculinity’ is destroying the planet. Can eco-masculinity help save it? (The Guardian, April 2026)

Neither Mouse Nor Menace: How Minneapolis Exposed Two Failed Models of Manhood – and a Third Path (The Tragic Optimist Substack, February 2026)

Strange Rites of Passage: War, hitchhiking, polar bear plunges and other odd things men do to “become men.” (The Tragic Optimist Substack, January 2026)

The Happiest Day of Somebody Else’s Life (The Sun Magazine, October 2008)

Dad for a Day (The Sun Magazine, August 2008)

Dating: the New Math (Marie Claire, October 2007). Here’s an excerpt:

In the old days, paying on that first date was a simple, nonverbal way to say, “I am interested in you. I am solvent. Tonight you are worth $58.45 plus tax and tip.” Then the feminist revolution arrived, then the left-hand turn of postfeminism, followed by something about spelling “girl” with three R’s⎯and now nobody knows what rules anybody else is playing by. If you pay, will she think you are a romantic or a chauvinist? If you let her pay, are you a deadbeat or a man at ease with powerful women? If you split, are you only half interested in her, or the kind of guy who’ll do half the dishes and go down on her half the time?